Abuse and the Eggshell Skull Rule
It suddenly occurred to me, having written “a difference between a victim and a survivor”, that there is subjectivity out there regarding who can legitimately claim they have been abused. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I have just learned about the eggshell skull rule. It’s worth knowing about.God Will Give You More Than You Can Handle
“We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so we despaired of life itself… ” These are very familiar words. They are, indeed, the words of the apostle Paul in 2 Corinthians 1:8. Paul goes on to say that it felt like they had received a death sentence (verse 9). Then we put that together with Paul’s words from 1 Corinthians 10:13 that says that “God will not let you be tested beyond your strength, that He will provide a way out so that you can endure it.” The fact is, both are right. Both need to be held in tension with each other.Three Ways to Ease the Prohibitive Conscience
If our key formative relationships featured manipulation, because it was an easy way to control us, we may have developed what can be termed a prohibitive conscience – a conscience based in fear, operating out of guilt. Likewise, if we have encountered people who are controlling, and we haven’t been brought up in such a way, such manipulation can be jarring.Delighting In Dealing With Difficult People
You sense it straight away, booking an appointment over the phone. The person on the other end is efficient if not a little curt. With every second it seems there is a heightening urgency in their voice. You feel as if you’re being intentionally problematic for them, even though you’re diligently polite.Restoration Through the Replacement Principle
Psychology and the Bible agree on many things, and the replacement principle is one of those. Consider this Bible quote from Philippians 4:8-9.